A handfasting is a traditional Pagan wedding. Paganism is an umbrella term for a number of earth-based religions with their roots mainly in pre-Christian Europe as well as in global shamanic traditions.
Why Is it Called a “Handfasting?”
It is called a handfasting because, whilst the couple are exchanging their vows, their hands (usually the left) are bound together with a cord or sash. The custom is an old one and some still adhere to the practice of a “preliminary” and a “final” handfasting. The museum at Gretna Green in Scotland, where people traditionally eloped without their parent’s consent, gives a brief history of marriage. Amongst the traditions is the “year-and-a-day” rule.
Preliminary and Final Vows
Originally conceived to make sure that the couple was fertile, they undergo a preliminary handfasting. One year and one day later they return to the person who married them to confirm their final vows. Although it’s less about fertility nowadays, people still consider it wise to have a trial period of living as husband and wife before committing for life. Either party can annul the commitment if it isn’t working. Today, many Pagans forego the preliminary handfasting and move straight to the final vows.
Is it Legally Recognised?
In short, not unless the couple then signs at a registry office or unless somebody who can officiate legal weddings is present. Many couples choose to sign at a registry office too, but many also do not as they see it as accepted in the eyes of the Pagan community.
The Ceremony
The ceremony can vary considerably depending on the couple’s branch, of “path”, of Paganism. Paganism is an umbrella term so a Druid wedding may differ from a Wiccan handfasting or a Heathen one.
Generally though, it is held outdoors with the guests in a large circle around the couple and the priest or priestess (or both) handfasting them. Four friends “call the quarters” – inviting the directions of North, South, East and West to attend as well as the elements of Earth, Water, Fire and Air and any other gods or goddesses who are invited.
The guests share food and wine, similar to communion, and once the couple has exchanged vows with their hands tied together, they jump a broomstick for good luck and the revelries begin.
Pagan weddings are often lively affairs with a bonfire, fire dancing, drumming, live music, much feasting and mead and wine flowing freely. It is also a common practice after the wedding for the guests to begin the calibrations whilst the couple take a temporary leave of absence to consummate the marriage.
Dress
Pagan formal attire can often be very colourful and brides may marry in any colour they choose from black to green or red. Guests may dress up in formal wear and ritual gowns or may choose outdoor practicality in jeans and T-shirt. It is very much about good-cheer and atmosphere.
